Baby Shower Part 1: To have or not to have

Among other things that are debated among adoptive families, baby showers are also a topic of debate. To have one or not to have one. I take the same stance as I have with the nursery. If you personally want a baby shower or adoptive shower DO IT. This is your time to shine as an expecting mother. You can have anything you want, well within reason. With all that being said make sure you know and understand the situation you are in. Every adoption is different. If you are adopting an older child this might be a great time for them to meet and be welcomed into the family, if you have been chosen and are waiting this might be a time to decide to do a shower once baby arrives or before.

As a mother, I was so excited for my shower and luckily I had two amazing friends that openly asked and started planning. In the recent weeks of waiting for Baby Aiden and all of the harsh realities and nightmares that have entered in and out of my husband and I's mind. I also began to realize why people wait even after they have been chosen. This is the part that is different for adoption. Even after you have been chosen, you are planning your life for a family with a child. You have to be careful how set you get with a specific child. For example, with us right now we are planning name, clothes, etc. for Aiden. Aiden who's new due date is March 25 for all those concerned of why he has not arrived yet. (that is another story for another day). Even though it is great to plan, be very careful. You want to be able to use all of the things you have purchased, made, planned, etc even if this adoption does not go to completion.  God has other plans for you! I thought I would be all good and tough but as we have waited more I realized if this adoption did not go through I would have a hard time looking at all these items the same. No matter what you decide, clearly I decided shower which was wonderful, make sure you enjoy your time being showered with love for your family. It is truly wonderful how many people support adoption and want to know more and be more involved. That has been the most touching thing about this experience so far. Thank you again to all the friends and family that have continued to support us. I know so many of you are dying with questions about Baby Aiden and here is the update that I have so far. The due date was moved from March 3 to March 25 quite a while a go but we were not aware of this. Baby Aiden is not super over due but hopefully will be right on time. Everything is still as scheduled and birth mother and father are planning on us being at the hospital during delivery (if we make it in time)!

Everything is a go and we will hopefully be posting about Baby Aiden's arrival as the next blog post!