The Process Of Becoming "Nana"

"Joy does not simply happen to us. We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day." Henri J.M. Nouwen

God blessed our family with a biological daughter and son and there is no way we could have imagined the many journeys they took us on. We were blessed to never know the feeling of fertility issues and truly only knew of a few friends that had shared their journeys with us. When our daughter and son-in-law began their journey, we trusted them to educate us on whatever we truly needed to know. We chose to be supportive, but allow them the room to navigate the road.

As you all know our kids were chosen over a year ago and we were over the moon excited to be "Nana" and "Papa Grimm." We chose the joy and did not goggle or investigate about the adoption. We looked at it as a blessing and if they were biologically becoming parents we would have never second guessed the process, so why treat this differently. As you know, this adoption failed and we became investigators to find out more about adoptions. We hate to admit that it was a sad time and we (especially me) became not so joyous about adoptions. Nicole and Jason have proven to us what true adoption means. It means you accept what is delivered or not delivered to you; no matter the timing or origin.

Finally, adoption means to me a child gets a family and a husband and wife gets their child. We know from the bottom of our hearts that Jason and Nicole will raise their children with the same values of love and family as they were raised. As grandparents,  all our grandchildren will be loved exactly the same and no matter how hard the adoption process is we will continue to be joyous and hopeful. 

We truly believe we have raised our children to be better persons than we are. We have no idea how this possibly happened but they showed us how not to be bitter and sad, but joyous and trustful of the future.